The other side of the coin... The flip side...

Have you ever been in love? Horrible isn't it? It makes you so vulnerable. It opens your chest and it opens up your heart and it means that someone can get inside you and mess you up. You build up all ...these defenses, you build up a whole suit of armor, so that nothing can hurt you, then one stupid person, no different from any other stupid person, wanders into your stupid life...You give them a piece of you.

And with that piece goes a lot of your life…memories, movies u went to together , plays you saw, places you ate and then one day once things are all over they come haunting back…every time that song plays , every time that movie shows, every time you pass that place where you used to dine…Cities and places.,..tunes and words….all related to that one person

BTW They didn't ask for that piece of you. They just did something dumb one day, like call you or smile at you, and then your life isn't your own anymore. Love takes hostages. It gets inside you. It eats you out and leaves you crying in the darkness. It hurts. Its not a hurt you feel but more of a void -- a feeling of those times, those hugs gone and that path which you could have been taken left untouched. I don’t hate love. But I sure hate what it tends to do to people…

INVISIBLE PIPER WITH A MYSTERIOUS TUNE…..

Luck, serendipity, destiny… All these concepts didn’t really much to me previously… But The last 2 years definitely made a dramatic change in my attitude and implanted in me a strong faith in Destiny…. I firmly believe, now in the theory of AN INVISIBLE PIPER WITH A MYSTERIOUS TUNE…..Everything is determined, the beginning as well as the end, by forces over which we have no control. It is determined for the insect, as well as for the star. Human beings, vegetables, or cosmic dust, we all dance to a mysterious tune, intoned in the distance by an invisible piper.

Whatever happens to us is certainly pre destined, whatever happens is for the best and we cant stop anything from happening or make an event happen if its not meant for us… Certainly we all put in our best efforts but ultimately the results are just not there in our hands… I don’t want to sound like a lazy loser but this is what I feel is the truth of life in a nut shell… We are mere puppets or actors dancing to the tunes the mysterious tunes of an invisible piper….

Serendipity. Look for something, find something else, and realize that what you've found is more suited to your needs than what you thought you were looking for.”

There are times when we know we are acting irrationally but just go on with it, as if it’s the best approach of handling a certain situation or acting in a particular manner… Later we might regret is another story altogether… That justifies the saying “VINASH KAALE VIPREET BUDDHHII !!”

I feel the number of smiles and tears are pre determined by an external force. Like we might be really happy in a situation and suddenly things turn around and we are no more smiling and similar can happen in case of rags to riches condition…. We as human beings give our best and try to extract the best out of given set of conditions….

Don’t we ask ourselves and GOD why a certain thing went so wrong when we never had any wrong intentions… It happens a lot of times.. And many of these experiences make us stronger. We emerge as a better person. In the short term definitely such setbacks hurt like hell but if we look at it from a long term perspective then they do help us indirectly by making us wiser, mature….

Like my TCS incident,.. For those who don’t know abt it…. I was given confirmation by TCS in nov 2008 that I was selected as HR MT.. I was happy beyond belief.. That was obvious.. And in an hour only they had given another news that I was not selected…They had had an internal meeting wer they decided to ultimately not take IN the fresher.. This experience made me stronger. Today when I am jobless I have this psychological, what u can say , belief in my own self that I have already faced a worse situation so this cant dissuade me. No one can chuck me out if I have still not made myself a part of their work force… Every man has his own destiny: the only imperative is to follow it, to accept it, no matter where it leads him.

And another fact is that we appreciate good things of life much more when we have been through the bad phase. Otherwise things would have been taken for granted. Now today when I get a job I will mot certainly enjoy the EMPLOYED feeling more than if I had been selected for a job from the campus in an UNRECSSIONED WORLD and had not faced any kind of hassles….

Lets say a person gets romantically involved with some one. Truly loves him/her.. gives his/her best… And then gets dumped for no apparent reason. Not to say the person will feel damn low.. Get high on the dejection quotient and loses confidence n stuff…But look at the positive aspect.. Such an experience makes one more careful, analytical in approach and obviously stronger from within…

I have no regrets in my life. I think that everything happens to you for a reason. The hard times that you go through build character, making you a much stronger person....

Raat lambi sahi,
Phir bhi yeh ek raat hai,
Subah ho jaayegi,
Sau baton ki baat hai,
Phir jaagegi yeh fizaa,
Phir dil ka ek raasta,
Le jaayega wahin tujhe,
Teri tay manzil jahan,
Sach to yeh hai ki hona hai yu,
To in aankhoin mein aansoo hai kyu?
Gum naa kar tu jo murjha gaye,
Phool khil jaayenge phir naye…